I'm a little afraid to post this week because I don't think I fit as a "biblical female." I read both sections a few times to try to understand the "biblical female," but still I see submissive wife and it still makes me feel ill. I feel the author was saying it's not a bad thing to be submissive, but she didn't really give any reasons why. I find it easy to be submissive in my other roles in life, as an employee, citizen, believer and child, but I receive benefits for being submissive in those roles, but being submissive to my future husband just sounds like more work for me. I truly want to be what God designed me to be, but how do I overcome my pride and my fears and let myself be a submissive wife?
Nicole, I let me first of all let me speak for me on this one. I can clearly understand where your thoughts and your fears may come from. Us as women without a mate become these super independent women who do for ourselves. If it easier for us to submit to our job, family and all of the other things in our lives because they have been a part of our lives for so long. So therefore we are accustomed to doing our own thing. And the word “submissive” can sound frightening. It almost makes you feel as that you are about to loose your voice and who you are as a person. With that, the pride comes in (because again, we are superwomen, we can do it ourselves), and then fear (because we have spent so much time becoming the person that we are). I encourage you to read Ephesians 5:22. You will see that being submissive to your future husband can be such a blessing for you. For your husband is to love you as Christ has loved the church. Can you imagine a love as beautiful as that?? So just as Christ loves us and leads us. So will our husbands. Just stop and think about that for a moment..... (I am getting excited) :). You have a man who is fully surrendered to God, and lets God lead him. This mans loves God so much, that he would not want to lead you wrong. So my answer to you is to change the way you look at the word "submissive". I believe when we look at it in a negative light, then it because something that frightens us. I hope this helps
I left out the part about the benefits: You mentioned that you receive benefits from being submissive in all of the other roles that you play. Being a submissive wife also has it's benefits. First you are being obedient to God and His word. Secondly, You are growing in God, Especialy if this is something that you find difficult. You are completely trusting in God, therefore your communication with HIm grows
Ladies.... can you all help with some of the benefits you have had being submissive to your spouse???
I have to admit,I've been staying quiet because I got stumped on a day with some questions I wasn't sure how to answer. I got frustrated and felt like giving up because I felt the questions were getting even deeper each chapter. Thankfully I reached out to First Lady and she let me know to keep going,don't give up,just go back to those questions later. Of course she was right,the next chapter was much easier to respond to and it also helped comfort me through some opportunities. Thank you Tedra for the encouraging email to remind us we are here to grow with each other and to not be shy.
Lol oops I forgot to put the question I was struggling with! Please help,ladies! I'm not sure how to answer this one .... Choose one of the many roles you currently play in your life,and record for each one how you are.... Good for it-necessary to it-an important component of it-worthy to be a part of it-trustworthy to fulfill your role in it?
Choose one of the many roles you play in life and tell how you are good for it,necessary to it, an important component of it,worthy to be a part of it,trustworthy to fulfill your role on it?
I'm a little afraid to post this week because I don't think I fit as a "biblical female." I read both sections a few times to try to understand the "biblical female," but still I see submissive wife and it still makes me feel ill. I feel the author was saying it's not a bad thing to be submissive, but she didn't really give any reasons why. I find it easy to be submissive in my other roles in life, as an employee, citizen, believer and child, but I receive benefits for being submissive in those roles, but being submissive to my future husband just sounds like more work for me. I truly want to be what God designed me to be, but how do I overcome my pride and my fears and let myself be a submissive wife?
ReplyDeleteNicole, I let me first of all let me speak for me on this one. I can clearly understand where your thoughts and your fears may come from. Us as women without a mate become these super independent women who do for ourselves. If it easier for us to submit to our job, family and all of the other things in our lives because they have been a part of our lives for so long. So therefore we are accustomed to doing our own thing. And the word “submissive” can sound frightening. It almost makes you feel as that you are about to loose your voice and who you are as a person. With that, the pride comes in (because again, we are superwomen, we can do it ourselves), and then fear (because we have spent so much time becoming the person that we are).
DeleteI encourage you to read Ephesians 5:22. You will see that being submissive to your future husband can be such a blessing for you. For your husband is to love you as Christ has loved the church. Can you imagine a love as beautiful as that?? So just as Christ loves us and leads us. So will our husbands.
Just stop and think about that for a moment..... (I am getting excited) :). You have a man who is fully surrendered to God, and lets God lead him. This mans loves God so much, that he would not want to lead you wrong.
So my answer to you is to change the way you look at the word "submissive". I believe when we look at it in a negative light, then it because something that frightens us.
I hope this helps
I left out the part about the benefits: You mentioned that you receive benefits from being submissive in all of the other roles that you play. Being a submissive wife also has it's benefits. First you are being obedient to God and His word. Secondly, You are growing in God, Especialy if this is something that you find difficult. You are completely trusting in God, therefore your communication with HIm grows
DeleteLadies.... can you all help with some of the benefits you have had being submissive to your spouse???
I posted my benefits on my post from today!! xoxo!!
DeleteThank you First Lady,I really needed that!
ReplyDeleteI have to admit,I've been staying quiet because I got stumped on a day with some questions I wasn't sure how to answer. I got frustrated and felt like giving up because I felt the questions were getting even deeper each chapter. Thankfully I reached out to First Lady and she let me know to keep going,don't give up,just go back to those questions later. Of course she was right,the next chapter was much easier to respond to and it also helped comfort me through some opportunities. Thank you Tedra for the encouraging email to remind us we are here to grow with each other and to not be shy.
ReplyDeleteThank you First Lady for reminding me I'm not a quitter and to just keep swimming,now that I'm continuing to read,I'm feeling more renewed everyday!
ReplyDeleteLol oops I forgot to put the question I was struggling with! Please help,ladies! I'm not sure how to answer this one .... Choose one of the many roles you currently play in your life,and record for each one how you are.... Good for it-necessary to it-an important component of it-worthy to be a part of it-trustworthy to fulfill your role in it?
ReplyDeleteCan you please clarify the question:)
DeleteWhich question ??
DeleteThat is the question from the book?
ReplyDeleteChoose one of the many roles you play in life and tell how you are good for it,necessary to it, an important component of it,worthy to be a part of it,trustworthy to fulfill your role on it?
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